"But being sexually selfish turned out to be much harder than I'd anticipated. I hadn't quite realized this before, but apparently a lot of what I get off on as a top is feedback: the admiration of my wonderful skill and sensitivity and general toppy hotness. It was extremely difficult to not care about whether Rachel thought I was hot." -- Greta Christina, "Buying Obedience", part 3 (blogged 2008-04-24; previously published in Other, and in Best Sex Writing 2008)