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posted by [personal profile] eftychia at 05:24am on 2013-08-15

"Now, compare this with the way children are taught not to tattle. What grown-ups really mean by 'Don't tell' is that we want children to learn to work it out with one another first. But tattling has received some scientific interest, and researchers have spent hours observing kids at play. They've learned that nine out of ten times, when a kid runs up to a parent to tell, that kid is being completely honest. And while it might seem to a parent that tattling is incessant, to a child that's not the case -- because for every time a child seeks a parent for help, there are fourteen instances when he was wronged but did not run to the parent for aid. So when the frustrated child finally comes to tell the parent the truth, he hears, in effect, 'Stop bringing me your problems!'" -- from "Learning to Lie", by Po Bronson, New York magazine, 2008-02-10 (quoted passage appears on the fourth of five pages in the web version of the article)

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