First off, I agree with everything you just said, the "Killer Myth of Monogamy" (KMOM herein) or anyone's killer myth is about unrealisic expectations.
Poly people have killer myths too. Everyone does. On some level, any relationship that ended by choice I think must have had at least one unrealistic expectation. Even the ones that "last forever" can still have them.
The Killer Myths I think would be those that keep cropping up doing in relationships. The KMOM(s) would be that/those that keep doing in monogamous relationshops. I'm sure there is/are KMOP(s) too.
Truth be told, merde's comment you refer to was made in response to a comment I had made.
That being said, I confess something: I bear no negative opinions about anyone regarding their voluntarily chosen lifestyle as long as their lifestyle choice doesn't require someone else's involuntarily participation. So yes, this philosophy gives me makes me frown on pedophilia AND sport game hunting (hunting for food is different).
I also tend to think that one should not be "out there" with their chosen lifestyle, just from the stand point that usually it's just plain rude to do so. I tend to find PDA that extends to the point that it gives away one's lifestyle choice a bit of a squick. That being said, I tend not to let someone else find out what my chosen lifestyle is unless one of us is curious. Read that however ya wants to.
The problem I do see is that the moment people get defensive in unhealthy ways. Monogamous society doesn't recognize poly relationships as legit, so some poly people got defensive, and in some cases behaved in the same stupid way as monogamous society at large did (see your footnote 3) whenever they had a perceived majority.
It's a shame really. As much as Poly people and Poly Friendly Monogamous People will tell you that it is important to respect other's opinions and lifestyles, how incredibly often that this doesn't happen when put into practice.
Someone needs to teach a class in applied tolerance. Of course, the concept itself will be branded as "Political Correctness" by boorish members of whatever majority favor the status quo.
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scruffycritter.livejournal.com at 12:54pm on 2004-01-20
Poly people have killer myths too. Everyone does. On some level, any relationship that ended by choice I think must have had at least one unrealistic expectation. Even the ones that "last forever" can still have them.
The Killer Myths I think would be those that keep cropping up doing in relationships. The KMOM(s) would be that/those that keep doing in monogamous relationshops. I'm sure there is/are KMOP(s) too.
Truth be told,
That being said, I confess something: I bear no negative opinions about anyone regarding their voluntarily chosen lifestyle as long as their lifestyle choice doesn't require someone else's involuntarily participation. So yes, this philosophy gives me makes me frown on pedophilia AND sport game hunting (hunting for food is different).
I also tend to think that one should not be "out there" with their chosen lifestyle, just from the stand point that usually it's just plain rude to do so. I tend to find PDA that extends to the point that it gives away one's lifestyle choice a bit of a squick. That being said, I tend not to let someone else find out what my chosen lifestyle is unless one of us is curious. Read that however ya wants to.
The problem I do see is that the moment people get defensive in unhealthy ways. Monogamous society doesn't recognize poly relationships as legit, so some poly people got defensive, and in some cases behaved in the same stupid way as monogamous society at large did (see your footnote 3) whenever they had a perceived majority.
It's a shame really. As much as Poly people and Poly Friendly Monogamous People will tell you that it is important to respect other's opinions and lifestyles, how incredibly often that this doesn't happen when put into practice.
Someone needs to teach a class in applied tolerance. Of course, the concept itself will be branded as "Political Correctness" by boorish members of whatever majority favor the status quo.