Does getting married publicly, with a big party, count as being "out there" with one's chosen lifestyle?
Weddings are perfect examples. And to answer your question: Not at all.
Weddings are typically invite only. Those that don't approve can simply not show up. No one who shows up should have a problem with what's about to happen. I don't know about you, but I've never been subjected to a wedding ceremony I didn't want to be around.
Is telling everyone about your ski vacation being too out there about that lifestyle? (Spending lots of money and time on a single recreational activity is more of a "lifestyle", in some ways, than whether a person has one lover, more than one, or none.)
I think you have missed the quotation marks I delimted "out there" with. But to use and extend upon your example:
If you take a week off of work for a vacation and you go skiing, that's your business. If people ask you what you did on your vacation, answer them if you want, and if skiing offends them, that's their problem.
If one of your co-workers wants to learn to ski, and asks you where to get started, by all means tell them. Recommend teachers. Literature.
Coming back from your ski trip, however, and without provocation telling everyone of them individually, including the guy in the wheelchair about how great the powder was on the K-19, and how you got Picabo Street's autograph is probably pushing being rude. It's "out there".
I'm sure the analogy will fail somewhere, but basically it's an ettiquite thing, and I think it should apply ALL ways on the subject. If mentioning being gay is innapropriate, so should being hetero. Same cuts for being Poly or being Monogamous.
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scruffycritter.livejournal.com at 04:30pm on 2004-01-20
Weddings are perfect examples. And to answer your question: Not at all.
Weddings are typically invite only. Those that don't approve can simply not show up. No one who shows up should have a problem with what's about to happen. I don't know about you, but I've never been subjected to a wedding ceremony I didn't want to be around.
Is telling everyone about your ski vacation being too out there about that lifestyle? (Spending lots of money and time on a single recreational activity is more of a "lifestyle", in some ways, than whether a person has one lover, more than one, or none.)
I think you have missed the quotation marks I delimted "out there" with. But to use and extend upon your example:
If you take a week off of work for a vacation and you go skiing, that's your business. If people ask you what you did on your vacation, answer them if you want, and if skiing offends them, that's their problem.
If one of your co-workers wants to learn to ski, and asks you where to get started, by all means tell them. Recommend teachers. Literature.
Coming back from your ski trip, however, and without provocation telling everyone of them individually, including the guy in the wheelchair about how great the powder was on the K-19, and how you got Picabo Street's autograph is probably pushing being rude. It's "out there".
I'm sure the analogy will fail somewhere, but basically it's an ettiquite thing, and I think it should apply ALL ways on the subject. If mentioning being gay is innapropriate, so should being hetero. Same cuts for being Poly or being Monogamous.