tejas is mighty wise, whomever sie may be. Sure, I worry about my kids seeing things, and I can and do censor things from them; sometimes it's just best that they not be exposed to certain things until later. But I make that decision, and rarely do I say that they'll never see something under my roof.
In most cases, if they ask us a difficult question, we just ask back if they want to know the answer. They know from experience that we'll give them the exact answer, as best we can...and that's made them wary. Sometimes, they decide that they'd really rather not know now...
Yes; while I would much rather my kid not do anything behind my back, I would also much rather make sure that what s/he sees is not going to confuse him/her because s/he is too young to understand it, even with an explanation.
Case in point: we were all watching "Ninja Warrior" the other night. Perfectly harmless family entertainment. Until the post-op transsexual came on. It was perfectly obvious this had once been a man - the entire body with the exception of the breasts was very masculine. (& let's not kid ourselves that there is no masculine/feminine). But there were, indeed, breasts, long hair & a lot of make-up. A LOT of make-up. And, what's worse, when my daughter had said "Hey, there's a girl in this one!", my husband already said, "No,m I think that's a man." Whereupon we really had to explain it to PuppyBoy.
Now, I have no problem telling my kids anything & everything. But at 5 years old, there's no way in heck I want to tell him anything that has to do with the removal of a penis. He's rather fond of his, for some reason, & I'd rather not scare him w/the knowledge that it could conceivably come off in any fashion. So it was fortunate that I was able to skip over this in explaining that "Sometimes, there are boys or men who really feel that they should have been born girls, & so they decide to be women, & change their names & dress like women."
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In most cases, if they ask us a difficult question, we just ask back if they want to know the answer. They know from experience that we'll give them the exact answer, as best we can...and that's made them wary. Sometimes, they decide that they'd really rather not know now...
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Case in point: we were all watching "Ninja Warrior" the other night. Perfectly harmless family entertainment. Until the post-op transsexual came on. It was perfectly obvious this had once been a man - the entire body with the exception of the breasts was very masculine. (& let's not kid ourselves that there is no masculine/feminine). But there were, indeed, breasts, long hair & a lot of make-up. A LOT of make-up. And, what's worse, when my daughter had said "Hey, there's a girl in this one!", my husband already said, "No,m I think that's a man." Whereupon we really had to explain it to PuppyBoy.
Now, I have no problem telling my kids anything & everything. But at 5 years old, there's no way in heck I want to tell him anything that has to do with the removal of a penis. He's rather fond of his, for some reason, & I'd rather not scare him w/the knowledge that it could conceivably come off in any fashion. So it was fortunate that I was able to skip over this in explaining that "Sometimes, there are boys or men who really feel that they should have been born girls, & so they decide to be women, & change their names & dress like women."
Not all censorship is bad, or even judgmental.