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"Hate can be exhausting, but don't anyone ever tell me that someone who has been targeted by this kind of 'invisible' plausible-deniability violence should be denied the option of hate if they choose it at any given point. I have chosen hate and used it at specific times for specific purposes, and it is in some contexts a tool for resisting this kind of heinous violence and the denial of the violence. Perpetrators who do violence inside this plausible deniability dynamic ... yes, hate as a response to [experiencing] that violence is an option that should not be denied IMO.

"It has its pros and cons as does any other resistance strategy, but I say don't deny targets of this kind of violence the right to choose it at any given point. That's my experience-based perspective on this, as someone who has chosen hate for particular purposes in particular contexts.

"One of the uses of hate, in my experience, is that can help keep the subtle violence really clearly visible amidst tremendous pressure to forget or ignore that someone has done and/or is doing violence to me.

"That's my own experience, and don't anyone tell me I am wrong to choose that when it serves my ability to resist the violence done to me by those with more privilege, those who get to hide their weapons and the violence they do under the cover that this heinous system gives to them when they act as its agents."

-- michelle (commenter at Pam's house Blend), 2009-07-02

Things I learned today: (a) My friends post a lot on Facebook. (b) Facebook will let you keep scrolling down for at least 400 screenfuls. (c) This takes a long time on the hardware I've got.

Things I didn't learn today: (a) The thing I logged into Facebook to check on.

I've been wondering lately ... If I delete my Facebook account, will people finally start sending me email about important and/or time-sensitive things like I keep asking, or will I simply cease to exist?