"I'm reluctant to tell a coming out story, in part because
which one would I choose? There are so many coming out moments.
I'm also reluctant to tell a coming out story, because there is
such a cultural fixation on stories of starting to transition.
The media likes to focus on the big reveal, the moment of first
coming out, 'the shocker' 'the betrayal'. My life is not a
day-time TV special episode. 'Transition' is presented as full of
drama, but focusing on the one moment hides that we are all still
daily making decisions to come out, or not. They make transition
into the biggest events of our lives, and while for some of us
that might be true, for many of us, we would like it to be a
non-event, a time that is past, and we would like people to pay
attention to our accomplishments, our writing, our work, the way
we support our friends, the way we create our families, the
things we imbue with meaning. Many of us would also tell you that
there is no single moment of transition -- it's a process, and it
takes time." --
ishai-wallaceg,
2013-09-17