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posted by [personal profile] eftychia at 05:24am on 2020-06-24

"Detransitioning didn't work out for me. About five years after detransitioning, I started wondering if it had really been worth it. [...] I rejected being trans because I hated myself, I hated that part of myself. I wasn't overcoming a dysfunctional coping mechanism, I was denying a part of myself. Treating being trans as a delusion or false consciousness made me more dissociated, not less.

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"I spent a lot of time as a detrans woman talking about how one can never know for sure the outcome of one's transition, if it will work out as one thought it would, how one will see one's self in the future. Turns out the same holds true for detransitioning. Detransitioning is not going to work out for everyoe who does it and not everyone who disidentifies from being trans is going to do so permenantly. So it goes."

-- Crashchaoscats, 2020-06-06

[Detransitioners are often used as a rhetorical cudgel against the trans community ... and often ignored by the trans community when they need our support. While some really have realized they're not really trans after all, or that they're trans but nonbinary, more detransition because existing in the world as a trans person is too hard where they are -- lack of family & community support, too much harassment & discriminqtion -- and re-transition after several years when denying their gender gets too difficult, or when they have more support.]

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minoanmiss: A detail of the Ladies in Blue fresco (Default)
posted by [personal profile] minoanmiss at 07:59pm on 2020-06-24
*reads, and sighs at how awful humans can be, and makes a note*
finding_helena: Girl staring off into the distance. Text from "River of Dreams" by Billy Joel (Default)
posted by [personal profile] finding_helena at 03:38am on 2020-06-26
It seems like nothing is set in stone in life and probably quite often people make big pronouncements and then later change their minds... maybe through multiple iterations.

I mean, personally my gender has never really been an issue, but I went back and forth for a decade and a half between I'm straight, no I guess I'm bi, no I guess I'm really straight, and finally figured out I'm not either, I'm actually ace-spectrum which is why neither sexuality label felt right, but lean strongly heteroromantic but probably not 100%. Also I considered myself engaged to three different past boyfriends before meeting the man I eventually ended up actually marrying 13 years ago.

We're all just trying to figure it out. People shouldn't be asses to each other about it.
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posted by [personal profile] selki at 08:44pm on 2020-06-28
I'm remembering a Tweet thread by K.M. Szpara about how he felt for years like he should only write about 100% successful trans people because otherwise it might be used as evidence that trans wasn't good/natural (I don't recall exact words), and it took him years to get confident to show other than sunshine and roses.

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