As for etiquette, yeah it varies from person to person, but the general rule (i.e. when you don't know a specific person feels otherwise about their deadname) is to consistently use a person's current name and pronoun even when talking about them pre-transition. See my longer reply to blueeowyn, above.
I had thought a lot more people would be aware of my transition by now, but I also thought that I would see a lot more people a lot more often by now! Between not seeing folks and, well, not being as active here or on FaceBook as I used to be, I'm not really surprised word hasn't spread as far or as evenly after all.
I started HRT in 2012, decided on my new name in 2018 (but sort of rolled out that info gradually in different circles), shaved off the beard a little later in 2018, and am in the process of getting my name and gender marker legally changed.
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As for etiquette, yeah it varies from person to person, but the general rule (i.e. when you don't know a specific person feels otherwise about their deadname) is to consistently use a person's current name and pronoun even when talking about them pre-transition. See my longer reply to![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
blueeowyn, above.
I had thought a lot more people would be aware of my transition by now, but I also thought that I would see a lot more people a lot more often by now! Between not seeing folks and, well, not being as active here or on FaceBook as I used to be, I'm not really surprised word hasn't spread as far or as evenly after all.
I started HRT in 2012, decided on my new name in 2018 (but sort of rolled out that info gradually in different circles), shaved off the beard a little later in 2018, and am in the process of getting my name and gender marker legally changed.
I feel more me and I smile more often. :-)
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