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This is a very good summary.
As this points out: there is no "both sides".
Don't pretend the "other side" is slightly in error.
Believe who they say they are the first time they show you.
Then demand that they treat you with respect, which means following the rules and no lying.

You cannot sanely deal with insane people.
To deal with insane people and the insane things of this world, you need a peace that passes all understanding.
Or you need to be as insane as the people you're dealing with.
-Anon