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"'ignore bigots until they aren't relevant' is the adult version of 'ignore your bully and they'll leave you alone'

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"they don't become irrelevant because you and a few friends ignore them. they still have their cronies and positions of power.

"de-platforming is an active process. it requires speaking out against them. but if the bullied kid stands alone, they are putting themself in danger.

"if their non-bullied peers stand with them, if those with authority and power over the bully stand with them -- if teachers kick them out of clubs and refuse to write recommendation letters, if the bully's parents take away their allowance -- that chips away at the bully's power.

"but when those allies stand and act once -- when that support is a one-time performance -- not only does the bullied kid go right back to being in danger, but that danger is worse now that the bully has suffered consequences and is not only hateful, but angry and spiteful.

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"allyship in all its forms is not a one-and-done. it's fighting just as hard as the kid being bullied, if not harder. it's standing with them, and it's standing between them and the bully.

"bullies and bigots become irrelevant when allies make them irrelevant by taking away their power, never giving them a platform (in life or in death), putting permanent shields in place, and maintaining those shields over time."

-- zan (ze/zem/zir) fully vaxed, staying masked (tripleAqueer), 2021-09-10 [worth clicking through to read the whole thread]