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"Whenever transness comes up with cis people it always goes to 'wow you're so strong. I could never' but I don't want to be strong. I want to sleep peacefully and exist safely.
"Saying I'm 'strong' isn't praise. It's an admission of failure to challenge the system hurting me.
"All I want is to be able to just exist and not need to constantly be on edge and to be able to go swimming again without it being deemed political. I just want to be able to exist for myself for a little while.
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"Nobody should need to be strong all the time. It fucks you up and changes you. Now I'm constantly on guard to make sure I and so many people around me are safe. Sometimes people think that's cool but being hypervigilant constantly changes you and you can never go back and relax."
-- Max has Nightmare Eyes (chaoticgaythey), 2022-03-25
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As a Black woman I feel an echo of this in my melanin. I hear this so, so much.
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Applies to disabilities, too. I don't want to hear "you're so strong" -- or "you have a Different Ability" (gag). I just want to be able to live in this world, and I want reasonable accommodations that cost little or nothing to be available without it having to be a Big Thing Every F*cking Time.
Society needs to stop "othering" people like this. We're all people, human beings made in the divine image, with a natural right to be here and live our lives in peace. Sheesh.