posted by
eftychia at 09:56am on 2002-08-23
From Fibromyalgia: Livng with Others by Deborah A. Barrett, under the heading "Communicate Clearly":
Why is this one so hard? We need to express our needs to others in ways that are simple, direct and polite. Often people who care about us want to help but do not know what to do. However, asking for help is not a neutral act. By asking, we acknowledge weakness and dependence. Therefore physical discomfort is not the only factor in a decision to seek help or special treatment. As I see it, we suffer not only from physical discomfort. We also mourn for the things we can no longer do, and we fear standing out, calling attention to ourselves because we cannot keep up with others.