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posted by [personal profile] eftychia at 05:25am on 2003-09-30

[livejournal.com profile] impgrrl wrote:

I offered to carry her bag this morning...remember, she had surgery last week (the week before?)...it looked heavy, and it looked like she was struggling with it. She was...amazed. That I offered to carry her bag.

Things like that just hit home how much of a different world I live in. Because I think *nothing* of that...

When she expressed her amazement, I rolled my eyes (combination of "it's *really* not a big deal" and my praise embarrassment), and she said "Don't roll your eyes, it's not something everyone would do!"

I love the way I live. I like it *far* better than this world that she lives in, where offering to carry a coworker's bag is something praiseworthy.

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posted by [identity profile] aliza250.livejournal.com at 06:36am on 2003-09-30
But... but... isn't part of being a team learning to step in and do the things that are easy for you, that someone else is struggling with, so that when the situation is reversed, others will do the same for you?
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posted by [identity profile] dglenn.livejournal.com at 09:33am on 2003-09-30
That just means you live in Impgrrrl's world, not her HR director's world.
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Decency

posted by [identity profile] anniemal.livejournal.com at 06:50am on 2003-09-30
I think I live in a similarly odd world. Put your shopping cart back in the queue, help old folks pick up things they've dropped, let someone merge, take care of a sick friend... These things don't pay, but without people doing them, the world is a poorer place. So carry your coworker's bag, and try not to pity the state of attitudes too much. We've all tightened down our caring potential at some point, but somehow I'm seeing less of the potential happening here and now than I used to. Guess I'm a hick. Bonne chance.
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posted by [identity profile] dglenn.livejournal.com at 09:37am on 2003-09-30
I wonder whether the world has become a less kind/courteous place, or if it just seems that way. Miss Manners had an interesting comment recently about the "stress" excuse for general rudeness/disconnectedness in our culture though, if the effect is real and not imagined: she pointed out that in times of Really Big Stress, such as during disaster cleanup, people become more polite, more caring, and more connected, so stress can't be the simple explanation for loss of manners in everyday life.
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posted by [identity profile] nosebeepbear.livejournal.com at 10:51am on 2003-09-30
Different kind of stress. Daily stress makes people focus on their own troubles too much, and they sometimes have blinders on where other people are concerned. Disaster stress is a shock to the system; people are forced to notice something outside themselves, and at that point it turns out that most people are decent after all.
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