Among the actual live humans that I know personally (as opposed to "what everyone knows" or what sme study finds) the tendency to think the latest true love will make one finally perfectly happy and whole is not closely related to the mono-poly thing. Rather, these are the same folks who think the new job/another degree/a new home/losing weight/changing religion/WHATEVER is going to do it.
I was poly for years - I couldn't deal with the serial monogamy psycho-dramas I saw acted out all around me. Now I am 16 years into an exclusive marriage I expect to last until one of us dies. If I'm the one left standing, I doubt I would get myself into another exclusive situation. (Hubby just returned from his second cardiac-related hospitalization, the first took place the day Hurricane Isabel hit. I have actually had recent occasion to contemplate widowhood.) (But he's fine, and should last for years to come!) I am seriously happy/content/etc, but I'm not sure its something I would do twice in a lifetime.
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I was poly for years - I couldn't deal with the serial monogamy psycho-dramas I saw acted out all around me. Now I am 16 years into an exclusive marriage I expect to last until one of us dies. If I'm the one left standing, I doubt I would get myself into another exclusive situation. (Hubby just returned from his second cardiac-related hospitalization, the first took place the day Hurricane Isabel hit. I have actually had recent occasion to contemplate widowhood.) (But he's fine, and should last for years to come!) I am seriously happy/content/etc, but I'm not sure its something I would do twice in a lifetime.