I certainly didn't mean that *you* felt superior to those of us who are (whether permanently or temporarily) monogamous. I know better. You are probably one of the most tolerant folks I know.
However, the view you printed is often slung at those of us who are being monogamous as if to imply that only the poly folk are doing it right.
In truth, communication in any relationship is something that must be worked at, or the relationship is likely to blow up. Further, even many monogamous folks do not expect their SO to meet all of their emotional needs, although that seems to be something many poly folk (and, again, I am not referring to you) do claim that most monogamous folks do.
For the record, my current SO and I are monogamous, but we both have many other friends, and often count on them for support in various aspects of our lives, rather than assuming we have the right to be emotional vampires to each other.
Further, I admit to being touchy on this one because I was a secondary in a poly relationship where I got to carry the emotional wel-being of my partner, with little or no reciprocation so, in my direct experience, some poly folk are very good at talking about how they don't do that, even when they actually are doing just that.
Anyway, I wasn't trying to hurt you, or push your buttons I was merely noting a phenomenon that I have seen far too often.
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I certainly didn't mean that *you* felt superior to those of us who are (whether permanently or temporarily) monogamous. I know better. You are probably one of the most tolerant folks I know.
However, the view you printed is often slung at those of us who are being monogamous as if to imply that only the poly folk are doing it right.
In truth, communication in any relationship is something that must be worked at, or the relationship is likely to blow up. Further, even many monogamous folks do not expect their SO to meet all of their emotional needs, although that seems to be something many poly folk (and, again, I am not referring to you) do claim that most monogamous folks do.
For the record, my current SO and I are monogamous, but we both have many other friends, and often count on them for support in various aspects of our lives, rather than assuming we have the right to be emotional vampires to each other.
Further, I admit to being touchy on this one because I was a secondary in a poly relationship where I got to carry the emotional wel-being of my partner, with little or no reciprocation so, in my direct experience, some poly folk are very good at talking about how they don't do that, even when they actually are doing just that.
Anyway, I wasn't trying to hurt you, or push your buttons I was merely noting a phenomenon that I have seen far too often.