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Day of Remembrance

posted by [personal profile] eftychia at 11:38am on 2004-11-20

Today is the international Transgender Day Of Remembrance, set aside to transgendered people -- transvestites, transsexuals, drag kings, drag queens, intergendered and bigendered individuals, genderqueers, and others who are not cisgendered -- who have lost their lives to anti-transgender violence.

Yesterday's quote-of-the-day would have been appropriate for today, but I wanted it to show up on a weekday.

Personally, I've been lucky not to face much more than shouted insults and some vandalism. Many are not so fortunate. And too many end up dead. In many very important ways life is better for transgendered people now than it was two decades ago, but bigotry, hatred, xenophobia ... and violence ... are still present.

Changing the world is slow work. We'll take all the help we can get to do so.

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posted by [identity profile] blumindy.livejournal.com at 09:17am on 2004-11-20
How *exactly* do we make this distinction? Who decides the definition of gender roles?
The women in this house go out to work and the men stay home with the kids and do almost all the cooking and cleaning. Depending upon the socio-political ideology of the observer the gender roles here may be being violated. But it isn't all that out of the "mainstream" to have a stay-at-home dad. So....cis or trans?

I have my own opinion, based on things that get said within the household but that isn't open and available to random observers.

Also, my father retired far earlier and younger than my mother did. She went out to work everyday and he stayed home. There were no kids and they have always had hired house cleaners. My dad can't cook to save his life and would NOT have been open to learning. Even in retirement, my mom brings in more money. Roles?

It's nice to try and define things but how do the definitions get set?
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posted by (anonymous) at 08:04am on 2004-11-21
Custom dictates "standard" behaviour, of course. Customs developed for some reason in the past, that might not have ever been reasonable and certainly might not be reasonable now.

Jonathan was worried about you, because of a nightmare.
Good to see you thinking.

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posted by [identity profile] anniemal.livejournal.com at 11:17am on 2004-11-20
You will not end up abused or dead as long as I have a good knife strapped to my thigh and enough blood left to wield it.

Your gender is negotiable. I attempt to to figure it out. But it does not trouble me. I've settled where I've settled, and will guard your shoes. Gotta start carrying a cloak.
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posted by [identity profile] blumindy.livejournal.com at 03:41pm on 2004-11-21
It is good to know that you are always there, at the ready. :)

Your gender is negotiable. I attempt to to figure it out. But it does not trouble me.

Couldn't have said it better myself, although I have less need to figure it out. It just is. It's the way it feels.......just is. No words. D'G feels like a D'G.
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posted by [identity profile] anniemal.livejournal.com at 07:31pm on 2004-11-21
As S_C said "Look! Up in the sky! It's a boy! It's a girl! No! It's Glenn!!" I've given up on categorisation and have no need for it anymore. I can't categorise myself. D'G _IS_ D'G. I cannot believe people keep picking at thing business.

Part of me is is one, part the other. I've always known this. And for me it's normal.
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posted by [identity profile] creativepain.livejournal.com at 12:11pm on 2004-11-20
That was something I didn't know about, but am glad that I do. I find violence against anyone to be wrong, to be violent against someone over something like this is abhorrent. I have a very good friend who is a transvestite, and I love him as him and as her. If that makes sense.
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posted by [identity profile] midwinter.livejournal.com at 02:35pm on 2004-11-20
I will never understand why anyone would kill someone, or even insult or vandalize, for gender role violation of any kind. It just doesn't make any sense, and is so tragic.
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posted by [personal profile] cellio at 02:35pm on 2004-11-21
Near as I can tell, "understanding" is rarely a component of what goes on in the head of such scum. It does not make sense to anyone who actually stops and thinks about it, but some people run purely on the paranoia and sociopathy they've learned without challenge.
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posted by [identity profile] anniemal.livejournal.com at 07:42pm on 2004-11-21
Unless you're intimidating me, no.
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