maybe people who naturally don't identify extremely strongly with their gender are more comfortable in a heterosocial environment, and naturally behave that way.
This tracks with my experience. I'm solidly heterosocial and more of my friends are male than female. I never had the "conventional girly interests". Common interests/affiliations, lack of children, and intellect (and the ability to express it) are much stronger attractors for me than gender. (Marriage is only relevant if you insist on doing everything as a couple and I don't care for the company of your spouse.) Frankly, I would only care about your gender if I were interested in dating you, and I'm not. :-) (Married monogamist here.) I find communities with enforced gender segregation to be maddening.
Perhaps ironically, I am solidly heterosexual; while I consider gender to be basically irrelevant in social relationships, I have zero interest in sleeping with women (even if I were available). That's the one case where it matters to me.
Oh, and yes, I'm generally regarded as being INTJ. :-)
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This tracks with my experience. I'm solidly heterosocial and more of my friends are male than female. I never had the "conventional girly interests". Common interests/affiliations, lack of children, and intellect (and the ability to express it) are much stronger attractors for me than gender. (Marriage is only relevant if you insist on doing everything as a couple and I don't care for the company of your spouse.) Frankly, I would only care about your gender if I were interested in dating you, and I'm not. :-) (Married monogamist here.) I find communities with enforced gender segregation to be maddening.
Perhaps ironically, I am solidly heterosexual; while I consider gender to be basically irrelevant in social relationships, I have zero interest in sleeping with women (even if I were available). That's the one case where it matters to me.
Oh, and yes, I'm generally regarded as being INTJ. :-)