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posted by [personal profile] eftychia at 05:25am on 2005-04-26

"In August, there should be a 'walk on eggshells' day, where you go out of your way to avoid offending people. In September, there should be a 'say what you feel' day, where it's universally accepted that no one take any of it personally. Then afterward, there would be a poll about which day felt better." -- Linda Holthaus, 2003-07-22 (2nd comment)

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posted by [identity profile] otherdeb.livejournal.com at 08:27pm on 2005-04-26
I actually like this idea, but I would put the two days maybe two weeks apart rather than a month, so that people do not forget how each day feels.....the better to compare and contrast you with, my dear.....
 

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posted by [identity profile] realinterrobang.livejournal.com at 12:52am on 2005-04-27
Did you get inconvenienced by the buffalo? :)
 
posted by [identity profile] billmarrs.livejournal.com at 07:08pm on 2007-04-12
Hello... we seem to have a few friends in-common, though I don't think I know you personally. I run Survey Central, the site from which you linked that comment. I'm wondering how you got Linda's full name for the link. I'm not upset or anything, just concerned, since I don't think her name should have been visible. I'm wondering if I have some kind of bug where names are shown when they shouldn't be. So, if you recall how you got her name, please let me know. thanks.
 
posted by [identity profile] dglenn.livejournal.com at 09:59pm on 2007-04-13
Wow, I don't remember, this late. But most likely, there was a link to a personal web page with her name on it, or to some other community site shere her name was visible in her user profile, from her user page on your site (since removed). If you and she are certain that there was never any such link, then I must be thinking of some other quote where I found the author's name that way, and really don't remember how I found hers.

It's also possible that I Googled something else she'd written on your site, and found it elsewhere attributed to her full name by someone who already knew it ... but I wouldn't have taken the trouble to do anything any more stalkerish than that, and probably didn't even bother to do that much -- I do like to attribute quotes as correctly as possible (the more so if I'm also submitting them to the Quotationoftheday mailing list, whose editor doesn't seem to like to post quotes attached only to online handles), but I don't have time to do a whole lot of sleuthing -- especially since many will lead to dead ends anyhow -- so I just use the handle attached to the quote where I found it unless getting a full name is very easy (like, fewer than three clicks away). Actually, I think I've now spent more time just now trying to figure out how I found her name, than I spent finding it in the first place. You said you're not upset or concerned, but I figured I owe you the most accurate answer I can give, as incomplete as that turns out to be.

I don't see her last name visible on her user info page now, so if there was a bug exposing her name then, it must have been repaired since.

I'm sorry I can't give you a more definite answer than that, but it wasn't a detail that stuck in my brain for two years. (Or longer. I don't remember how much earlier I added the quote to my QotD queue; I've a vague recollection that this one sat in the queue several months before it got posted.)

It's not my intent to violate someone's privacy (so even if I did have the time and energy, I wouldn't go all stalker to find the real name of someone who made it hard to find); I assume that someone who links their handle to a site showing their real name (again: if I'm right about that being how I found Linda's name) isn't trying to hide their name...

... but if Linda would prefer that I remove her last name from this LJ entry, I will do so. I'm not sure how much good that'll do after so long (who knows how many places it's been archived or cached?), but if she cares, I'll change the attribution as she requests. If she's no more upset about it than you are, then I'm inclined to leave it as is. If you contact her about this (to check up on the scenario I described in my first paragraph, for example), please pass along my @livejournal.com address to her in case she wishes to request that I change the attribution.
 
posted by [identity profile] quedellem.livejournal.com at 01:38am on 2007-04-14
You can leave my name there. I'm only a little concerned that you have a link back to survey central. It's no real big deal, though. There are so many people with my name, it would be a bit stalkerish for someone to google my name and try to figure out which ones are really me.
 
posted by [identity profile] quedellem.livejournal.com at 01:40am on 2007-04-14
It's flattering that you liked my quote so much.
 
posted by [identity profile] billmarrs.livejournal.com at 08:55pm on 2007-04-16
Hey, thanks for the thorough reply! I showed what you wrote to her. So, she may contact you, but I suspect she wont. I think she just mentioned it off-hand to me, but doesn't actually mind. I was just concerned over the site, but your response put me at ease.
 
posted by [identity profile] billmarrs.livejournal.com at 08:56pm on 2007-04-16
Oh, I see that she replied... duh, I should have checked that first.

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