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Well, it finally happened. I got physically bashed.

I wandered out to try to figure out which direction the thumpy bass I'd been hearing for the past three hours was coming from, and while I stood near the corner looking down Fulton Ave., two vehicles pulled up on Lombard St. at the stoplight behind me. They started making comments about how I was dressed. I turned around. They got more emphatic. One driver started to get out and someone yelled, "Get his camera," then everyone else got out. I had hope that it'd just be an exchange of words until two of them started swinging -- one at the camera, one at my face -- after which the others joined in. I took blows to both eyes, one cheek, and my temple, and went down badly, hurting my back and scraping my elbows. Fortunately they didn't continue after I fell, running back to their vehicles instead and zooming off.

I staggered back to my door, unplugged the modem, and dialed 911. I am still waiting for the police to arrive. *grumble* I'm feeling less and less goodwill toward the police.

These were not people from my neighbourhood. They were too nicely dressed (khakis instead of sweats and jeans, slightly too-nice shirts -- still casual, still sneakers that I dodged a kick from). Six to eight young African-American men. (I was noting locations of the nearest ones, not counting); I think at least three, probably four, landed blows on me. Their rides were a little too new, too recently washed. They weren't from my neighbourhood. They were passing through, and took the time and trouble to pummel a stranger who looked funny.

Right now I feel three things: loss, because after swatting the flash off my camera one of them snatched it, and that was my last properly-working flash; frustration, because there's no chance the police are going to find these assholes and bring them to justice; but mostly rage. If I thought I had a chance of locating them, I'd be in my car with camera and sword in hand looking for payback.

They beat me up in my own neighbourhood, meters from my own house, and they weren't from here. They were passing through and assaulted me on my street. I'm pissed. I want to do something that'll make them regret this. But there's probably nothing I can do.

So the remaining question is whether the police can do anything to make this kind of thing less likely, and will they?

Oh yeah, a fourth thing I feel. Pain. One cheek feels like it's swelling up quite a bit, my elbow burns, and I can't stand up quite straight because of pain below my left shoulderblade. (Should I have asked the 911 operator for an ambulance? [Edit: Shortly after posting this entry I did decide the inability to take full breaths was scary enough to call an ambulance for. The ambulance arrived before I could edit this entry to say so. See this followup) But the pain, as strong as it is, is no match for the anger.

They don't fucking do this to me on my block. I shouldn't have to fear it anywhere, but especially not at home.

And so ends a decades-long streak of being very visible and never getting attacked for it. (The fellow who came after me with a baseball bat years ago did so out of what later became known as road rage, and I was wearing boyclothes, coat and tie, at the time; the one other time I felt a person verbally harrassing me might turn violent, I was able to slip away.) I really liked being able to say I was one of the lucky few, to keep that streak going. I kind of counted on being able to mollify friends who worried for my safety by saying, "I know people like me get attacked, but so far I've been okay." As of now, I'm another statistic.

A really fucking angry statistic who'll be thinking about going armed.

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posted by [identity profile] 2wanda.livejournal.com at 08:27pm on 2005-07-10
This is horrible. Horrible isn't even a strong enough word. I'm very sorry to be human whenever I hear about human being treating each other this way. May you recover quickly from the external injuries, as well as the rage and fear you are feeling right now. I hope that soon you will be able to walk comfortably and fearlessly in your own neighborhood again.
 
posted by [identity profile] feste-sylvain.livejournal.com at 08:28pm on 2005-07-10
  1. I'm glad you're only beaten, and not dead or crippled.
  2. I'm glad you're angry and not frightened.
  3. If you are seriously thinking about going armed, learn to do it right. See whether there is a local chapter of the Pink Pistols who can teach you proper use of the tools.
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posted by [personal profile] cellio at 08:33pm on 2005-07-10
Damn! I'm so sorry, and I share your rage. Bastards like that deserve to encounter armed targets from time to time... (But if you do opt for carrying a weapon, please make sure you're trained on it so it's less likely be used against you, ok?)
 
posted by [identity profile] theferrett.livejournal.com at 08:41pm on 2005-07-10
Christ, people are dicks. I had no idea you wore that sort of thing, but man I'm sorry you have to be armed to walk around like that.
 
posted by [identity profile] usqueba.livejournal.com at 09:12pm on 2005-07-10
Crap! I'm sorry to hear this. I'm here via cyan_blue.

I hope you're back to your "regular" self soon.
 
posted by [identity profile] mrf-arch.livejournal.com at 09:31pm on 2005-07-10
*hugs*
 
posted by [identity profile] scruffycritter.livejournal.com at 10:34pm on 2005-07-10
Damn man. I'm glad youre okay.

It's stuff like this that makes me want to get a few of my swishier gay friends together, have them walk around your neighborhood out loud and proud, while the rest of us keep our distance while carrying batons and pepper spray waiting for these guys to try again...
 
posted by (anonymous) at 10:43pm on 2005-07-10
If you were armed, and pulled a knife or gun in this situation, odds are it would have been turned on you. Consider mace or pepper spray - the sort that dyes the attacker.
 
posted by [identity profile] drewkitty.livejournal.com at 10:48pm on 2005-07-10
I teach defensive tactics to security personnel. It sounds like you handled an unpleasant situation fairly well, all things considered.

I do have the following advice:

1) DO NOT RELY ON ANYONE TO SAVE YOU. Mobile 911 in particular is very problematic. The 911 operators at the California Highway Patrol Golden Gate dispatch center in Vallejo have very high stress levels as the result of being forced to hear people injured, beaten, dying or even killed, and never getting enough location information to send them the correct police and EMS agencies. Enhanced cellular 911 is being slowly phased in, but many cities and agencies do not have it yet.

Program into your mobile phone the seven-digit local number for your local police dispatcher (in the front of the white pages). Then all you have to do is dial and say, "Help! I'm being attacked by two men at Fulton and Lombard." The local police dispatcher can put this out on the radio in seconds -- knowing what you're talking about -- instead of you telling the local PSAP dispatcher what city you're in, being transferred to the correct agency, and then having to tell the whole story again.

Also, even from a landline telephone, the police may have delayed response times depending on local call volume and number of units available. So they may show up in time to save your life, but not in time for you to avoid crippling injury.

Realize however that once the bad guys have left the scene, it is no longer an emergency -- unless you have reason to believe that they'll come back. This means that the PD may take a half-hour to an hour to get to you to take a report.

My current record for hold time (literally, with hold music!) with a life and death 911 call via our local California Highway Patrol is seven (7) minutes. (I needed EMS and fire for an extrication and was traveling on the freeway out of area, not sure which city I was in.)

2) Your objective when attacked by multiple attackers is survival. "Even Hercules cannot fight two." Break contact. In other words, run. If you can't get away, protect your head and spine, curl up if knocked to the ground, and scream. Don't let your ego get in the way of your survival. Don't feel guilty about not fighting back.

3) If you decide to fight back against multiple attackers, realize that you are escalating the incident. If they're going to cripple or kill you anyway, you have nothing to lose. However, it is difficult for the ordinary citizen to quickly and seamlessly transition from saying "Excuse me" when bumping into someone, into the kind of person who will ruthlessly smash in faces with their elbows, jab out eyes with a thumb, and kick off kneecaps. That is what is necessary to prevail against multiple assailants. And consider what they will do to you if you lose -- SO DON'T LOSE. If you fight back, in the belief that you are protecting yourself from serious or fatal injury, THERE ARE NO RULES. Stop fighting only when you can safely escape or all of your foes are hors de combat.

4) In nearly all parts of the world, an ordinary citizen cannot use deadly force to reply to a simple assault. Displaying a firearm in a fistfight immediately ups the ante and may defuse the incident -- or turn it into a shooting incident or even a gunfight in which all parties die. Don't laugh, it happens. I recall one incident where three men died over a 5 cent discrepancy in the price of an ice cream cone.

I fully approve of people who make the thoughtful choice to go armed. Get the proper training and go through the permit process to lawfully carry a concealed firearm. These issues will be discussed in depth during your training.

However, NEVER carry a weapon as a "magic bullet" or a rabbit's foot. Weapons kill (even the non-lethal ones after someone gets it away from you, hits you with it, and then kicks you to death), and many police are killed with their own weapons. Only carry a weapon after being trained in its proper use -- and proper NOT-use.

Others can best speak to how you must be feeling right now, and that it sucks that we live in a world with predators in it. I am just offering suggestions about steps you can take to protect yourself in the future.
 

HUG

posted by [identity profile] cacle.livejournal.com at 11:47pm on 2005-07-10
Holy crap.


HUG
 
posted by [identity profile] smallship1.livejournal.com at 01:06am on 2005-07-11
Hugs, sympathy, and anything else that might be helpful.

I'm not going to volunteer an opinion on the going-armed thing, because everyone else will have done that and you don't need it.
 
posted by [identity profile] juliansinger.livejournal.com at 01:47am on 2005-07-11
Ahhhhhhhhh fuck. I have nothing useful to say other than that I'm glad you went to the hospital and I'm really fucking pissed on your behalf.
 
posted by [identity profile] koshmom.livejournal.com at 02:00am on 2005-07-11
You've got 65 comments already, here's number 66. I haven't read them all, but all I have to say is that I'm shocked at the stupidity of it all. How those people can self-righteously call themselves human is beyond comprehension. And you may even have a case with the ACLU with the cops, especially if you happened to tell them (or if they knew already) about the type of clothing you wear.
 
posted by [identity profile] still-asking.livejournal.com at 03:25am on 2005-07-11
They knew his neighborhood, that would already reduce the odds of them responding to the call.

- Still Asking, also in Baltimore, and cynical to boot
 
posted by [identity profile] lothie.livejournal.com at 02:53am on 2005-07-11
*anger* I am so sorry...I wish I could have made this NOT HAPPEN. *anger*
 
posted by [identity profile] eviltomble.livejournal.com at 03:30am on 2005-07-11
Shit. I'm sorry I'm only just commenting, I've been lost for words.

I wholly empathise with your anger at having to deal with this sort of shit and feeling unable to do anything. I know I don't dress like you do, but I've been verbally abused, spat at, and generally randomly harrassed in the street for little or no reason. I greatly respect that you look the way you want to look and refuse to be cowed by the cretins of the world.

Also one time 2 friends and I were beaten by a similar number of young men outside a nightclub for reasons we're not sure about, and spent the night in hospital- but mostly just waiting to be checked over for any damage, of which there was apparently none, just cuts and bruises and lots of blood. The slighter of my friends got the worst, having been kicked a lot whilst on the floor; he also said he thought he'd seen one of them smash a bottle. But after all that, we're still around, and never encountered the attackers again, that I know of.

So I generally find myself wanting to fight back against these shits that I so often seem to encounter, but aside from the fact I'm not strong and not a fighter, I know that depending on what I try and how it goes, there could be the risk of
  • Getting hit harder for trying
  • Ending up with them or people they know launching a full on vendetta against me (or people around me)
  • Getting arrested, and plausibly going to jail.
And that I think is the main reason I feel so frustrated about it; perhaps if you try to fight back these things will not apply, I don't know, but the risk has generally put me off the idea too much, and probably other people too. Perhaps things are sufficiently different in America. Meanwhile, I note Drewkitty, Scruffycritter, and the anonymous poster in between have some interesting points on such things.

I don't think I have any advice, except take time to heal your injuries, try not to let it eat you up, and don't let the bastards grind you down (I'm glad at least it sounds like they're not managing that).
 
posted by [identity profile] weskeag.livejournal.com at 03:31am on 2005-07-11
Sorry to hear about this, hope the pain goes away soon; I'm also glad that anniemal is looking after you.

 
posted by [identity profile] hammercock.livejournal.com at 04:56am on 2005-07-11
Fuck. :( I'm so sorry this happened to you, Glenn. Fucking worthless assholes. *gentle hugs*
 
posted by [identity profile] ame-chan.livejournal.com at 06:06am on 2005-07-11
I'm so sorry that this happened to you. There really are no words. Take care of yourself.
 
posted by [identity profile] chipuni.livejournal.com at 06:53am on 2005-07-11
Oh, gods...

I'm terribly sorry.

I don't know what a stranger, halfway across the country, can do, but please let us know how we can help.
 
posted by [identity profile] catling.livejournal.com at 07:58am on 2005-07-11
I'm so sorry that this happened to you. (I know you don't know me, I saw an entry about this in [livejournal.com profile] cyan_blue's livejournal) Please let us know what your paypal account is, maybe we can all replace your camera at least.

It's a horrible thing, when human beings choose to act like a pack of hyenas.

I wish you all the best in finding healing and not letting the incident cause you to live in fear, easier said than done, I know, from someone who has been assaulted herself in various ways at various times. Be well.
 
posted by [identity profile] shirad.livejournal.com at 10:38am on 2005-07-11
Glenn! İ am so sorry to hear about this. Especially since İ remember trying to write something about your back when you needed testimony on it some years ago. İ hope you are ok and that they catch the bastards who attacked you.
 
posted by [identity profile] wispfox.livejournal.com at 01:34pm on 2005-07-11
Oh, yikes! That's terrible, and my _god_ it being so close to your home would freak me right the hell out, were I you...
 
posted by [identity profile] rms-butterfly.livejournal.com at 02:19pm on 2005-07-11
That's horrible! I'm so sorry to hear about this happening to you. *hugs*
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posted by [personal profile] blk at 02:40pm on 2005-07-11
God DAMN hearing about that gets me angry as well. I'm sorry for your loss and your pains, and I hope those punks get their karma back somehow.
 
posted by [identity profile] axiomaxiom.livejournal.com at 03:20pm on 2005-07-11
Rest, recover, return to yourself. It is the best answer. Continue, and the world increments towards civilization.

My best and my hopes to you. Feel better soon.

--Axiom
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