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I didn't say I didn't care about transgendered people, I said I didn't care about your tone, personally.

parsing. think about who i am wrt caring.

I said was that the way you convey your information can have the opposite effect of the one you wish for

what effect do i want?

between people who are known to be on your side already

what? on my side? how much are they on my side if they can't deal with what they themselves are doing?

When I say "friends" I don't mean, your personal friends, I mean people who can be of service to your community - or not. The world is full of nice people, but it's also full of people who aren't necessarily going to be won over by your waving the you are privileged flag in front of them.

until they understand the problem, they can't actually do anything effective. there's all kinds of crazy shit that happens when people don't actually understand the problem and that they are actually part of the problem.

focusing on the *real* problem

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the various oppressions are interlocking - not more real than one another.

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Yes, although not in your particular community.

which community?

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When I say "friends" I don't mean, your personal friends, I mean people who can be of service to your community - or not.

effective support is support that understand the services needed, not just the support "friends" are "comfortable" giving. services that are not relevant are not helpful or desired.