When a person discovers they've caused offense, they are more likely to get defensive than to be enlightened right away.
In many cases. I am spoiled in that so many of the people I associate with (most of whom do enjoy privilege of one sort or another) have gotten past that. (I know that it's not an easy lesson; in my case, it took hurting several people I cared about several times too many, with predictably bad results.)
Expecting someone who's caused injury to understand why, even with an explanation, is probably too much. I'll stand by the statement that it's unreasonable to expect understanding without explanation. It's the middle ground between those two, where some people will get it, and more won't, that gives me both hope and frustration.
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In many cases. I am spoiled in that so many of the people I associate with (most of whom do enjoy privilege of one sort or another) have gotten past that. (I know that it's not an easy lesson; in my case, it took hurting several people I cared about several times too many, with predictably bad results.)
Expecting someone who's caused injury to understand why, even with an explanation, is probably too much. I'll stand by the statement that it's unreasonable to expect understanding without explanation. It's the middle ground between those two, where some people will get it, and more won't, that gives me both hope and frustration.