Δαφνη Ευτυχια Αρθουρος

Damn you, Joss!

But oh my, what a ride.

My brain feels ... after-Thanksgiving-dinner full, there are so many ideas and revelations and moments to digest.

"The truth is that whether sexuality is biologically 'hardwired' or not we do all make choices. Every one of us, gay or straight, has free will, and although our range of choices may be restricted it is not eliminated. I don't think I could have chosen to fall in love with anyone other than my partner. I could certainly have chosen to deny my love for her, date men and pretend to enjoy it, find one willing to marry me, learn to endure sex with him, and live out my life as a good heterosexual wife. It would have made me miserable; and that's why I didn't do it. But it was a choice that was open to me.

"The argument for gay rights depends on our ability to defend that choice. What we are arguing for is not the right to be gay but the right to be honest and open about it. No, we can't choose who we're attracted to; but you know what, nobody can. Whether they're based in biology, psychology, spirituality, or some combination of them all, love and desire are not things that most people experience as consciously willed and chosen--whether they're gay or straight. What we *do* choose is to accept our loves and desires instead of repressing, denying, and fighting them. We are fighting for the right to make *that* choice and to have that choice respected."

-- plaidder, 2005-05-10