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posted by [personal profile] khatru at 06:49pm on 2017-10-12
Picking a name is a fraught thing. I recall when I was thinking about it in my teens; I think it took me like 6 months to come up with something, and all I was doing was teen angst "must leave, go elsewhere, new identity so don't get caught' thing. Reading the comments, I agree that the beard may leave by itself once the hormone levels shift further.

Eftychia might end up shortening to Kia on the phone, and other lowish bandwidth sound systems; pronouncing it in my head, the first two syllables get lost in shwa-ness.

Good luck on your journey, and thanks for the update!
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posted by [personal profile] eftychia at 11:51pm on 2017-10-12
According to one of the name websites, a usual shortening is "Effie", so now I'm weighing how I feel about "Kia" and "Effie". One of those might work for the "..but you can call me ___" thing.

The beard isn't going away on its own, though it might have started growing more slowly and maybe thinned a little. Testosterone is kind of a one-way trip that way: once it turns on those follicles, they stay on even when the testosterone goes away, barring electrolysis (which I doubt I'll ever be able to afford).

Hearing from others who have had trouble choosing a name is useful. It helps me take the brain-cycles I'd otherwise spend feeling silly for taking so long to decide, and put them to use in figuring it out instead.
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posted by [personal profile] khatru at 03:35pm on 2017-10-13
I don't know if this is something you would come up against, but 'effie' might sound too much like a shortened term for cursing.

I feel like 'that's not a shortened form i would risk' / 'that's something I would have actively avoided when I was thinkign of things to name kids' is conflicting with 'adults mostly dealing with adults who adult' and 'i think i recall people my parents were friends with with that name, maybe?' Effie sounds familiar-ish in my head in the way I associate with my childhood and adult-maybe-family around my parents.

I'm not sure that para makes sense, but I'm not sure I can explicate it otherwise... my words are only sort of working, today.

But, no. Don't feel silly. You're choosing an essential part of you, for the future. It is a reason, complete to itself, to spend time for All Due Consideration.

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