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"In a perfect world, I don't think it [one's sexual orientation] is anyone else's business, but I do think there is value in standing up and being counted." -- Anderson Cooper

[Today is National Coming Out Day. Coming out seems to be less of a big deal nowadays in a general, abstract sense, but it can still be a huge thing personally, and not everyone can afford to, or feels they can afford to come out. There's been progress; there's room for more. Visibility is still important. Me, I'm a trans woman who loves women. People don't assiciate me with closets, but not everyone has been kept up to date on shifts in my identity, status, and presentation, so here I am: this is me, Daphne-who-was-d'Glenn. I'm not above using Coming-Out Day as catching-up day. :-) ]

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Thanks for the update, Daphne.

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Seems to me that if I want to have sex with someone, their sexual orientation *becomes* my business. Otherwise, agreed.

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Arguably, what's relevant to you is that you are a person (or fall into a group/category of people) they're attracted to, and vice versa. Here and now, it may matter a bit that a man I'm involved with is bi rather than het, but it doesn't matter enough for me to affect my choices.

Conversely, if someone says no thank you, is it my business whether they give me a reason for that "no" that connects to their sexual orientation? If someone turns me down because I'm the wrong gender, or because I just don't smell right to them, or because they're monogamous, or they only date Yankee fans, or... the key point is that they've said no.

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Hi, Daphne! You've been on the path to this destination for a good long while, and I'm glad that you feel you've achieved some clarity. I guess this means your magnificent beard is now history? :-)

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Hi Daphne! That's a lovely name for a lovely soul. Thanks for that bit of catching-up.

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Daphne! You hadn't told us your new name. Thank you for letting us know. It's a lovely name. May it only ever be said in joy and love.

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Dear Daphne,

Thank you.
For your presence, over many Arisias past.
You're one of the people who gave me the strength to be me, by being yourself out on the con floors and halls. Skirt, guitar and all.
You likely wouldn't recognize me in person, but that's fine. *chuckles*
You matter.
Thank you.

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I'm not above using Coming-Out Day as catching-up day.

Heh. And hugs, Daphne.

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Daphne is such a lovely name! I'm glad you found the name for you, and I think you and Anderson are right about standing up and being counted.

edited for typo

Edited Date: 2018-10-12 04:09 am (UTC)

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I love the name! I remember a discussion with you when you said you wanted a name that both reflected your ethnic heritage and was usually pronounced correctly, and this certainly fits.

*hugs*

Edited Date: 2018-10-12 09:41 am (UTC)

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