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posted by [personal profile] eftychia at 05:24am on 2021-06-21

"And I'm going to wear whatever I want, whenever I want to, because gender is in fact performative, and I'm nonbinary." -- Alexander (Sascz) Herrmann ([twitter.com profile] lothie), 2020-08-07

[Every so often some fool demands that nonbinary people look a certain way, usually genderless or androgynous, and folks have to remind them that nonbinary people don't owe anyone any particular presentation to be nonbinary.]

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posted by [personal profile] cellio at 02:17am on 2021-06-23

Uh, I'm a woman who doesn't wear dresses or makeup. I wonder if those people have a problem with me too, or if they save it for people they can get away with picking on more easily. :-(

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posted by [personal profile] selki at 04:38pm on 2021-06-23
I don't know about the people who interact with you, but rigid binary thinking definitely affects cis folks, too, diminishing cis women and trapping cis men in "macho" lifetime roles and getting them beat up sometimes, too.
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posted by [personal profile] cellio at 04:56pm on 2021-06-23

I see men get this, yeah. It doesn't happen much to me, maybe because I'm not beautiful or young. My trans friends get way worse than anything I've experienced or seen. I didn't phrase it well, but I was calling the jerks who harass trans folks on their double standard of picking on a trans woman for not presenting as "feminine enough" while I mostly get a pass.

I do have the privilege of living in a blue city in the US north. That certainly protects me and my local friends from a lot of crap the people have to endure elsewhere.

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posted by [personal profile] selki at 02:14am on 2021-06-25
I apologize I wasn't careful in my phrasing; I was trying to expand on what you said, not push back against you.
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posted by [personal profile] cellio at 02:18am on 2021-06-25

Thanks for clarifying, and no worries -- limited-bandwidth communication is hard sometimes.

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