It can make people feel embarrassed and even be upset that they feel embarrassed. The embarrassment is because people judge each other based on the company they keep. If one is a very conservative person and is in the company of liberals (identifiably so dressed) - it is embarrassing because they don’t want to be seen as a liberal person (and it makes matters worse when the liberal is your child - my personal experience with my Mom/Dad). In the case of a child, the liberal expression of the child makes the parent feel like a failure or plays on their lack of self-confidence. Most people are very "attached" to how they (and others) are perceived and we are a segregated, diverse society - who, in my opinion, ignores the diversity as much as possible.
People still have to identify the Self with things that are non-Self and, further (more dangerously), make an "enemy" out of things that they are not like - so as to keep an identity. Having people who appear to be the "enemy" around is very uncomfortable.
My solution: transend this whole deal and become more or less comfortable wearing just about anything and ask, specifically, what to wear (or what kinds of things to wear) and give examples to see how well you understand. That way people can deal with me and I can deal with them. It's not the Self that people have problems with (not necessarily, at least) - it's the role. Most people (at this point in time/evolution) need strict rules and roles to feel secure and to deal with each other. I can be myself in weird clothes (most of the time).
Sometimes I wish others would transcend this whole deal so I don’t have to all the time….
Some things to muse:
To an extent, you can choose the way you want to feel and, as I'm sure you're aware, you can choose how to respond.
"Love doesn't solve problems, it dissolves the situations in which they arise" Gurumayi Chidvilasananda
Life is a balance of Past, present and future (in another translation a balance of Earth, Atmosphere (wind), and Heaven)
And articles by Georg Feuerstein, "The Elusive Emotions", "Changing Mind" on www.yrec.org
Poison - continued
It can make people feel embarrassed and even be upset that they feel embarrassed. The embarrassment is because people judge each other based on the company they keep. If one is a very conservative person and is in the company of liberals (identifiably so dressed) - it is embarrassing because they don’t want to be seen as a liberal person (and it makes matters worse when the liberal is your child - my personal experience with my Mom/Dad). In the case of a child, the liberal expression of the child makes the parent feel like a failure or plays on their lack of self-confidence. Most people are very "attached" to how they (and others) are perceived and we are a segregated, diverse society - who, in my opinion, ignores the diversity as much as possible.
People still have to identify the Self with things that are non-Self and, further (more dangerously), make an "enemy" out of things that they are not like - so as to keep an identity. Having people who appear to be the "enemy" around is very uncomfortable.
My solution: transend this whole deal and become more or less comfortable wearing just about anything and ask, specifically, what to wear (or what kinds of things to wear) and give examples to see how well you understand. That way people can deal with me and I can deal with them. It's not the Self that people have problems with (not necessarily, at least) - it's the role. Most people (at this point in time/evolution) need strict rules and roles to feel secure and to deal with each other. I can be myself in weird clothes (most of the time).
Sometimes I wish others would transcend this whole deal so I don’t have to all the time….
Some things to muse:
To an extent, you can choose the way you want to feel and, as I'm sure you're aware, you can choose how to respond.
"Love doesn't solve problems, it dissolves the situations in which they arise" Gurumayi Chidvilasananda
Life is a balance of
Past, present and future (in another translation a balance of Earth, Atmosphere (wind), and Heaven)
And articles by Georg Feuerstein, "The Elusive Emotions", "Changing Mind"
on
www.yrec.org
And some other articles I can't find right now.
Good Luck
--Ru aka. Anusara