I've only been reading your journal for a little while, and while I knew you were transgendered, the whole "beard and a skirt and heels" aspect hadn't really registered with me... On reading this post (and scooting to your webpage to get to know you better, I should have done that before, sorry) I reckon that on your own home ground you should wear whatever the hell you like, and your mom really should have got the idea by now. I know its hard to upset moms, but there are various famous men who happily wear skirts and dresses (Eddie Izzard, that French fashion designer who's name currently escapes me, various others) so why shouldn't you? If it were up to me, I'd say go on the kilt and keep the rest low-key (never a good idea to be challenging this time of year) but stop wearing pants around your mom, she'll have to get used ot it sooner or later.
She really can't complain about kilts if the likes of Samuel L Jackson can spend an entire film wearing one (51st State) - and I know life is about more than Hollywood, but such images as you know carry ideas of what is and isn't "acceptable" and might help her out.
But we dion't know each otehr, so feel very free to ignore my views completely, hope you get to hang out with your family and still feel like "you", however you end up dressing :)
I'm not going to ignore your take on this completely -- hey, we know each other a little from reading each others' journals, and Clue is Clue, n'est-ce pas?
I hadn't thought of using Eddie Izzard's existence as something to throw into the discussion -- guess I ought to use that while folks are visiting from England, rather than later...
As for what I wound up doing, I'm about to write a fresh post about that.
BTW, my kilt is far and away the most masculine-feeling thing in my wardrobe. I never feel more butch, more macho, more masculine (maybe even more male) than in a kilt. So in one sense a kilt is even less of a compromise than wearing trousers, since it's uber-male. (OTOH, I cope better with wearing a kilt because it registers as "stage clothes" for me, like garb does, so it doesn't push the same "in disguise in the world" buttons.)
I suppose it is very male.. certainly one needs to be confident of oneself to wear a kilt outside of Scotland or RenFaire.. I wonder if thats how others percieve it though?
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She really can't complain about kilts if the likes of Samuel L Jackson can spend an entire film wearing one (51st State) - and I know life is about more than Hollywood, but such images as you know carry ideas of what is and isn't "acceptable" and might help her out.
But we dion't know each otehr, so feel very free to ignore my views completely, hope you get to hang out with your family and still feel like "you", however you end up dressing :)
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I hadn't thought of using Eddie Izzard's existence as something to throw into the discussion -- guess I ought to use that while folks are visiting from England, rather than later...
As for what I wound up doing, I'm about to write a fresh post about that.
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