Isn't this enormously contextual? Doesn't it depend on the relationship between the people involved? Doesn't it depend on whether or not it is a gift? If it's not for you, is it a gift? Is it the orgasm which is the gift, or is the being willing to have you around for it the gift? If it's a gift when she orgasms, if she doesn't come does that mean she's being stingy? Does this put performance pressure on her?
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Not that everyone's like me, of course. But, like leiacat, the process and overall experience is more important to me anyway.