I rather prefer to make it obvious that I really enjoy going down on people. Lots of yummie noises and so forth. Orgasm or no, I have a great time.
I did goof once, with a friend who'd done without for far too long, and it took quite a (delicious) while for her to get going. When we'd finished, she said she was sorry that she'd "taken so long". Off the cuff, I said "I'm not" (meaning that I'd have a great time and there was nothing to apologise for). I later realized this could be misconstrued as meaning "It's my fault, not yours, 'cause I did it wrong and I'm not a bit sorry!"
And I have to admit that the idea of sex as a gift doesn't really feel right for me, though thanking someone for a wonderful time is, in general, not a bad idea.
Orgasm? No orgasm?
of yummie noises and so forth. Orgasm or no, I have a great time.
I did goof once, with a friend who'd done without for far too long, and it
took quite a (delicious) while for her to get going. When we'd finished,
she said she was sorry that she'd "taken so long". Off the cuff, I said
"I'm not" (meaning that I'd have a great time and there was nothing to
apologise for). I later realized this could be misconstrued as meaning
"It's my fault, not yours, 'cause I did it wrong and I'm not
a bit sorry!"
And I have to admit that the idea of sex as a gift doesn't really feel
right for me, though thanking someone for a wonderful time is,
in general, not a bad idea.