Thanks ... I was worried about the whine-factor because I'd gone on at such length saying "this is how bad it gets" in a post that was meant to be "here's a flaw in my coping that I need to figure out". I wouldn't have been as concerned about that if it had been an "I'm giving in to the urge to gripe" entry -- I'll sometimes put "Whine" in the subject line for those. It's reassuring to be told that it came across closer to what I'd intended than to what I'd feared.
Some of us -- myself certainly -- were taught as part of our upbringing, "not to complain too much", whether it was ever spelled out in those words or not.This makes it hard to judge when I'm speaking a reasonable amount and/or in a reasonable manner about what's wrong. So ... does that sound like it's connected?
That might be connected, though I don't seem to have a strong "don't complain" training/voice in my head.
For me, part of it is that, while I realize that my friends don't mind making allowances, I hate that I sometimes need it, and thus don't like asking for those allowances. Which may lead to me not telling them enough, so they won't decide/offer to give me a break that I haven't already decided I want.
I am getting better at little things, like asking people "can we slow down now?" even when I have been setting the fast pace.
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Some of us -- myself certainly -- were taught as part of our upbringing, "not to complain too much", whether it was ever spelled out in those words or not.This makes it hard to judge when I'm speaking a reasonable amount and/or in a reasonable manner about what's wrong. So ... does that sound like it's connected?
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We could add a backrub and shoulder/arm/handrub to our prospective *Top Hat* and proof viewing visit. I would not mind a bit!
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For me, part of it is that, while I realize that my friends don't mind making allowances, I hate that I sometimes need it, and thus don't like asking for those allowances. Which may lead to me not telling them enough, so they won't decide/offer to give me a break that I haven't already decided I want.
I am getting better at little things, like asking people "can we slow down now?" even when I have been setting the fast pace.