I wouldn't be surprised if this is actually true. From what I can remember of my sister's being an infant (and I was nearly ten at the time), it was a huge stressor. Nobody was getting enough sleep, a lot of things were pushed by the wayside due to the baby's taking up more time than one would think possible, and I can well imagine my mother going through a postpartum period where sex was simply unthinkable (as I've heard often happens), given that she was in labour for 24h and came out the other end nearly dead and with only a squashed little alien pain in the ass to show for it.
Then again, I'm also one of these people who can't understand why anyone would willingly go through the process of having a child, because it seems to me that the inconveniences far outweigh the rewards, and the only evidence to the contrary appears to me to be cultural conditioning and nothing more.
I mean, think about it. First you get to carry around this parasite in your body for nine months, which causes catastrophic and oftentimes irreversible physiological effects, then when your body finally ejects the parasite, you run a significant risk of dying in the process...and then, after all that, your reward is that you get to spend vast amounts of time and money caring for it for basically the rest of your life. I must confess to just not seeing the upside, especially considering that I don't like children, at all. I understand that people do, I just haven't come across any reason convincing enough to me to explain it. (I also figure that a lot of people have kids because it's the expected thing to do.)
So I can entirely see how a process like that could entirely wreck someone's relationship. All life changes run that risk, and I can't think of any more radically life-altering change than having a baby.
i totally relate to what youre saying... its a lot of pain to go thru, and its just *expected* that all women will inherently want to do this. parenting is one of the hardest jobs, yet goes entirely unpaid and unappreciated. bleh.
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Then again, I'm also one of these people who can't understand why anyone would willingly go through the process of having a child, because it seems to me that the inconveniences far outweigh the rewards, and the only evidence to the contrary appears to me to be cultural conditioning and nothing more.
I mean, think about it. First you get to carry around this parasite in your body for nine months, which causes catastrophic and oftentimes irreversible physiological effects, then when your body finally ejects the parasite, you run a significant risk of dying in the process...and then, after all that, your reward is that you get to spend vast amounts of time and money caring for it for basically the rest of your life. I must confess to just not seeing the upside, especially considering that I don't like children, at all. I understand that people do, I just haven't come across any reason convincing enough to me to explain it. (I also figure that a lot of people have kids because it's the expected thing to do.)
So I can entirely see how a process like that could entirely wreck someone's relationship. All life changes run that risk, and I can't think of any more radically life-altering change than having a baby.
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