...How much of the killer myth of monogamy revolves around the idea that the right romantic partner is the cure for all ills? That falling in love with someone who loves you will make everything perfect?
That's not the killer myth of monogomy though.
There's a certain theory that basically goes something like, "Falling in love with someone is the end-all be-all end-game victory condition that everyone should aspire to achieve."
This viewpoint isn't strictly one only monogamous people subscribe to. Lots of poly people have this view, but don't limit themselves to only one "someone".
So what's the Killer Myth of Monogamy then? What is the monogamous belief that poly people laugh their asses off at?
It's that monogamous people refer to the above condition as "Living Happily Ever After".
er. could we not tar all monogamous people with the same brush here? i make a point of trying to be sensitive to and understanding of my poly friends. it's depressing how common it is, though, for them to fail utterly to reciprocate. i am reminded of the time i was hanging out with my evil twin and his primary, and they kept gleefully referring to monogamy as "monotony" in my presence, apparently oblivious to the fact that they were being insulting. had i said anything even jokingly negative about poly, of course, they'd have been all over me with the defensiveness routine.
my policy has always been that if you want others to be accepting of you, it behooves you to be accepting of others.
Eh, I wasn't writing that from the perspective of a poly or mony person. I was trying to report the facts.
I should have been more specific: "Happily Ever After" is what alot of literature written by people that believe in monogamy happen after finding one true and only love. I apologize for the somewhat broader brush stroke than I intended. Still, I maintain that poly people laugh their asses off at that.
I believe both sides have myths the work under. You just didn't hear me go off on the other side. In the interest of equal time, here's one:
Talk to 10 different poly people about "how poly should work" and you'll probably find 10 different versions. This is something monogamous people hear and would laugh their asses off at if it wasn't quite so sad.
I agree, in the poly community, monogamous people are often bashed as naive. Christians are often bashed by in Pagan communities in much the same way.
Please don't think I'm one of those guys just because I answered someone's question or else youre using no less of a broad brush than the one you *thought* I was.
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That's not the killer myth of monogomy though.
There's a certain theory that basically goes something like, "Falling in love with someone is the end-all be-all end-game victory condition that everyone should aspire to achieve."
This viewpoint isn't strictly one only monogamous people subscribe to. Lots of poly people have this view, but don't limit themselves to only one "someone".
So what's the Killer Myth of Monogamy then? What is the monogamous belief that poly people laugh their asses off at?
It's that monogamous people refer to the above condition as "Living Happily Ever After".
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my policy has always been that if you want others to be accepting of you, it behooves you to be accepting of others.
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I should have been more specific: "Happily Ever After" is what alot of literature written by people that believe in monogamy happen after finding one true and only love. I apologize for the somewhat broader brush stroke than I intended. Still, I maintain that poly people laugh their asses off at that.
I believe both sides have myths the work under. You just didn't hear me go off on the other side. In the interest of equal time, here's one:
Talk to 10 different poly people about "how poly should work" and you'll probably find 10 different versions. This is something monogamous people hear and would laugh their asses off at if it wasn't quite so sad.
I agree, in the poly community, monogamous people are often bashed as naive. Christians are often bashed by in Pagan communities in much the same way.
Please don't think I'm one of those guys just because I answered someone's question or else youre using no less of a broad brush than the one you *thought* I was.
-Joe