er. could we not tar all monogamous people with the same brush here? i make a point of trying to be sensitive to and understanding of my poly friends. it's depressing how common it is, though, for them to fail utterly to reciprocate. i am reminded of the time i was hanging out with my evil twin and his primary, and they kept gleefully referring to monogamy as "monotony" in my presence, apparently oblivious to the fact that they were being insulting. had i said anything even jokingly negative about poly, of course, they'd have been all over me with the defensiveness routine.
my policy has always been that if you want others to be accepting of you, it behooves you to be accepting of others.
Eh, I wasn't writing that from the perspective of a poly or mony person. I was trying to report the facts.
I should have been more specific: "Happily Ever After" is what alot of literature written by people that believe in monogamy happen after finding one true and only love. I apologize for the somewhat broader brush stroke than I intended. Still, I maintain that poly people laugh their asses off at that.
I believe both sides have myths the work under. You just didn't hear me go off on the other side. In the interest of equal time, here's one:
Talk to 10 different poly people about "how poly should work" and you'll probably find 10 different versions. This is something monogamous people hear and would laugh their asses off at if it wasn't quite so sad.
I agree, in the poly community, monogamous people are often bashed as naive. Christians are often bashed by in Pagan communities in much the same way.
Please don't think I'm one of those guys just because I answered someone's question or else youre using no less of a broad brush than the one you *thought* I was.
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my policy has always been that if you want others to be accepting of you, it behooves you to be accepting of others.
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I should have been more specific: "Happily Ever After" is what alot of literature written by people that believe in monogamy happen after finding one true and only love. I apologize for the somewhat broader brush stroke than I intended. Still, I maintain that poly people laugh their asses off at that.
I believe both sides have myths the work under. You just didn't hear me go off on the other side. In the interest of equal time, here's one:
Talk to 10 different poly people about "how poly should work" and you'll probably find 10 different versions. This is something monogamous people hear and would laugh their asses off at if it wasn't quite so sad.
I agree, in the poly community, monogamous people are often bashed as naive. Christians are often bashed by in Pagan communities in much the same way.
Please don't think I'm one of those guys just because I answered someone's question or else youre using no less of a broad brush than the one you *thought* I was.
-Joe