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posted by [personal profile] eftychia at 05:25am on 2004-10-22

"Many people think that they're good at taking criticism. What they mean, however, is that they're good at taking criticism on things that they have already decided are wrong with them." -- [livejournal.com profile] theferrett, 2003-12-07

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posted by [identity profile] doomspark.livejournal.com at 03:14am on 2004-10-22
How true, how true.

I think, though, that it's human nature to react badly to anything unpleasant that you're not expecting - like criticism of something you don't believe is a flaw.
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posted by [identity profile] renefrost.livejournal.com at 06:07am on 2004-10-22
i'm a Leo. it's not that i don't take criticism well; i just don't take it all. now flattery,, well, flattery will get you everywhere...
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posted by [identity profile] blumindy.livejournal.com at 06:36am on 2004-10-22
Hm, I'm a Leo also but I'm the opposite. Flattery is usually something I find suspect: I think the person is setting me up to do something.

As for criticism, my first consideration is the source. If I trust the person, I'll think about the criticism. If I think there is an unspoken agenda or animosity.......I either disregard or take the comment to someone I *do* trust. I do that pretty frequently as my self-esteem is rather tame.
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posted by [identity profile] anniemal.livejournal.com at 07:36am on 2004-10-22
I can tell real flattery from fake, mostly.
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posted by [personal profile] blk at 09:25am on 2004-10-22
It's quite true, except one also needs to remember the important distinction between unwanted criticism and unaccepted criticism.

I'm generally OK with being criticised. I might take it harshly, but I also learn from it. I am generally, however, less OK with a friend randomly coming up to me and telling me how something of mine totally sucked when I didn't actually want any other opinions on it.

There's also a fine line of how it's expressed. But that's getting into overanalysis...
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posted by [identity profile] anniemal.livejournal.com at 11:44am on 2004-10-22
Given my mate, criticism is the norm. I'm used to it. No criticism is wanted, but I consider it all. There have been times when criticsism felt undo. But the feelings on both sides all come from somewhere. And source is considered. It's how I grow and learn, no? Everything I say might matter to someone more than I mean it to. I've just had a (expletives deleted) lesson about it. I'm actually a marshmallow trying to look mean.
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